Madly Ever After

We’ve reached the end of our DBT sessions for now. The Boy and I are much happier and more connected than we’ve ever been. Now we have to practise these skills on our own for a few weeks and hopefully get on our hoped for intensive DBT course which may break through some of the blocks in our memories, wanted or unwanted.

Explaining Radical Acceptance to myself.

I accept what has happened because I cannot change it.

I accept outcomes that I cannot change.

Outcomes I can change I will fight for even if they’re only small changes.

Radical Acceptance is not meant to make you feel better, it gives you permission to accept what is happening

There’s a feedback loop between Acceptance (RA), Turning the Mind (TTM), and Willingness (W).

You either have to be Willing to change or something happens that Turns the Mind (or both) that forces either to accept or deny what is happening in your reality. And it is your personal reality as all you as an individual is formed through your senses and how you perceive others. You can never know what another is truly thinking or feeling but language and talking over a shared construct we all understand is the only insight we have into others thoughts.

The Boy and I are sad to leave the group, will miss some people who have given us guidance but we’ve made a few friends and hope to stay in touch with them. However we cannot keep going to group indefinitely and have to learn to live on our own. Maybe The Boy and I will never fully integrate into a single being but The Boy is loved and allowed to play and be himself. My little Ghost in the Shell.

So all the facets of my existence are coalescing back into something new but may never be truly one. I am Groot, We ARE Groot!