Madly Ever After

I guess this is the definition of being an emotional vampire.Bear with me though because this is about connection and how we humans need to be with others who support and encourage and don’t bring us down.

When you are with others whom you feel happy and comfortable and acknowledged by then your inner judge gets starved of the energy you need to support yourself. More importantly it stops the judges of others supporting that inner beast.

This is why representation is good. Why feeling understood and acknowledged is good. Why being around people who try and convince you that you’re whole world view is wrong because of their book hurts and takes away who you are. This is why people who lash out because they’re hurt and frustrated because their worldview is inconsistent with yours hurt you even though they may not mean it, it’s just that they don’t understand but it takes energy and love from you. Love that you need for yourself in order to share it with others is taken away by these people. If only they could see it.

So really the point I’m trying to raise is that positive and supportive people raise your emotional energy even if your own daemons are draining it. You’re not the vampire, the inner judge and dementor is. They just steal from you and not from others forcing you to lean on others for support. When that support is not there then the daemon just sucks your emotional energy until you have nothing more for yourself and break down.

Sometimes you have to remove people from your life because they take up too much of your energy. Other times you find a connection and, no matter how hard life is, you find a positive feedback loop Life is hard, everything is going bad but no matter what you feel fulfilled by this other person.

Maybe there’s a word in the dictionary for this. I dunno.