Madly Ever After

I’m explaining this to myself

I react very quickly when faced with something I get a strong emotional response to. Main triggers; love, loss, abandonment, anger, violence, shame. All fear related.

Each time I feel one of these I need to step back, each time someone else presents one of these I need to step back. Stop and think before reacting. Do not ruminate on the response but just take a few minutes to calm the nervous system before reacting.

Accept criticism positively and not as something hurtful. Improve and forgive myself on how I react.

It’s my feelings that are reacting to others.

If I have love in my heart I do things lovingly for others despite that it may cause them emotional hurt.

I do not have to do things out of love when it hurts me.

I do not have to confuse love with infatuation and desire.

I give myself permission to do things lovingly and compassionately without feeling the addictive need to do these things and without obligation to do so.

This is going to take a lot of work. I want to be a whole compassionate person.